— History makes today make sense! Many emerging Black leaders lack the historical record of leadership and it is showing up in a big way. The gains of today were purchase by the pains of those who lead yesterday. Our job as tenured leaders in Black America is to calibrate today’s young black leaders against the context of history. I’m currently writing a new book “STILL IN THE BACK OF LINE” It provides the context for the content of leadership today. Weekly, I’ll be posting an excerpt to engage leaders.
I look forward to our conversations……
BEING UNDER THE BUS IS WORSE THAN BEING IN THE BACK OF THE BUS
Our lack of commitment to one another has thrown us under the bus which is far worse than riding in that back of the bus. At least in the back of the bus we would survive but when you are thrown under the buss death is immanent! Gone are the days when mother would send you next door to “borrow” a cup of sugar from your neighbor; today you are lucky if you even know your neighbor. It’s time to admit it we have fallen out of love with one another. You cannot change anything that you are unwilling to confront. You cannot confront something you’re not willing to be honest about, the truth is African Americans do not love each other like we used too. I know that doesn’t feel good but the truth is not designed to make you feel good its purpose is to cause you to be and do good.
Let me provide some context for the content of my statement. In 1962 only 13% of black children who were born where born to a single mother. So that means that 87% of our children had a mommy and a daddy actively engaged in building a family and present in the home. Today the numbers have almost reversed; 72% of the children born in the African America community don’t have a mommy and daddy! Conversely only 28% of black children born have both parents living at home. We don’t love our children enough to give them a mother and a father present in the home. We know that 80% of all prison inmates did not have a father actively involved in their life. In my mind this is a love issue. We can have the sex make the baby and hate being a parent! Where is our commitment and love to and for one another? Further evidence that we don’t love each other is our homicide rates;
- 93% of black homicides are committed by another black person – WE DON’T LOVE EACH OTHER!
- 50% of the murder victims are black and we only make up 12% of the population. WHERE IS THE OUT CRY?
- Blacks kill more members of their own race every year than do all other races in America – combined. THIS ISN’T LOVE
- Between seven and nine thousand African Americans are murdered every year mostly at the hands of other African Americans. Have we lost our concept of love? WE’VE GOT TO LOVE AGAIN.
OK, I didn’t tell you anything that you don’t already know but I revisited those issues to further clarify my point; people who love each other don’t do to each other what African Americans are doing to each other year in and year out! We once were our brother’s keeper now, we are our brother’s killer, this must STOP! Let’s be honest people, we have a love problem and we can’t solve our problems until we start admitting it and start learning how to fall in love with each other again. Here’s how we need to start;
We must return to our religious roots why, because God has been our moral compass, it was God who we collaborated with to end the oppression of our government and white America. We prayed to God and he heard us and answered us! We attended the civil rights meeting that was held in most churches. We were the poster children of a people who believed in God and trusted Him as we were the standard bearers of morality in this country. Now it seems we have pimped God to some degree; after we got what we wanted we turned our back on Him and the facts about our existence today is all the truth we need to return to God. No government program or social program is going to solve our problems as a people. We must return to God and do what we did before ask him for help and this time when he helps us DON’T FORGET IT!
We can’t be a great people without having our families intact. Black men and black women need to marry and quit having babies out of wedlock BE A FAMILY! Every time we don’t do this we’re intentionally hurting our children and continuing the cycle of destruction.
#3 EDUCATION AND COMMERCE
We can no longer afford to not get an education! We are flunking out of high school and black male college enrollment rates are dropping fast. We can do nothing without education but education starts early! Parents your number one priority is to see to it that your child gets an education. It’s not the teacher’s responsibility or the schools responsibility it’s yours because you are the parent. We must read to our kids early, give them structure and create a safe place for them to be kids.
These are just a few of the critical things we must start doing day one and if we do it, it will make all the difference in the world.